Sunday, June 15, 2008

getting ready for some James Taylor music...

Yesterday, Jason and I ventured over to the local women & infants hospital to get a one-day crash course in Lamaze. Yup. Everything you ever wanted to know - and a few things you probably never wanted to actually see - in less than 8 hours of class time, including a lunch break to Moe's. I wasn't sure what to expect going in, but it turned out alright in the end. My favorite part was seeing all the expressions on the men's faces - or rather, the (singular) expression: total and complete fear. You would think it would be the first-time-moms-to-be with that expression, wouldn't ya? We're doing the bulk of the work, right? No, every woman in that class just looked relieved to have found the right classroom in the maze of the hospital floorplan, find a seat, and rest their legs. The men, on the other hand, kept glancing surreptitiously around the room, giving each other these looks that clearly stated, it's not too late to ditch this and do 18 holes, dude. You in?

In Jason's defense, he was the one male who looked completely at ease. After all the horror stories I bring home from my shifts on a trauma floor, I think I pretty well convinced him that labor and delivery was mere child's play in comparison (oh, we shall see, I know - stop laughing...).

The class was taught by a male RN, which is no big deal these days, except that he was a labor & delivery nurse for something like 15 years, and the only male L&D nurse ever hired at the hospital (and people, it's a LARGE hospital). And he was this ex-military guy with a long salt-and-pepper ponytail who jingled his change constantly in his pockets while he lectured - and did I mention he lectured for 8 hours? - and instead of concentrating on listening to pain relief options and possible birthing positions, I was mostly thinking of the 286 ways I would go completely berserk if the RN spending their next 12 hour shift with me was this Change Jingler while I was trying to relax and breathe.

As with every class like this one, we ended up watching some rather lame, 20-year-old videos of expectant parents, live births, and even a few C-sections. Speaking of those C-section videos, have you ever heard the sound of blood simultaneously draining out of the faces of 30 people? It was quite loud, I tell you, and just slightly amusing to me. From my perspective, the videos were quite un-gory... but then again, I see freshly burned skin and exposed bones on a daily basis, so what do I know?

Aside from some momentary face-smacking reality of just how messy and bloody birth can really be, most of the lame videos featuring Dorothy Hamill Hair were actually quite positive and reassuring: normal, happy birth outcomes are the norm and the majority of experiences. You've probably seen something similar, even if you've never attended a birthing class: calming folksy guitar music in the background, the video montage of tearful moms snuggling in bed with their newborns while Dad kisses Mom's head in relief, maybe a syrupy song lyric or two about the sanctity and wonder of Motherhood.

And wouldn't you know, the class I expected to be somewhat boring and information-only? It got me pretty excited about this whole birthing process. Everything. The pushing, the begging for an epidural, the wild grimacing, the folk music montage - all of it. Truthfully, I haven't had much of an opportunity lately to think much about that part - between getting settled in to our new home and the stresses of my job, I've been more inclined to just head for a long nap than to wonder at the marvel of the growing belly. My mom, who is chin-deep in the same grueling nursing program I did a few years ago, hasn't really had the time or resources to be all excited and ooh-ahh with me over this first pregnancy even though she lives in our same house; I have no sisters, and most of the rest of my family is scattered about the country. With all of those factors combined, along with the blessing of a physically-easy pregnancy so far, I could easily forget that I was even pregnant, much less well into trimester #3, were it not for the constant kicks and undulations going on in my uterus. Going to Lamaze class was like a huge red sign: Yes, you are SOON TO GIVE BIRTH. And it's going to be MIND-BLOWING. I'd kind of forgotten all of that, somehow.

In a few weeks, I get to wear a pretty tarp dress, eat yummy cake and ice cream, play games, and be all giggly and excited with some of my closest friends and family about this next step of being a woman. I'm looking forward to it. And just a few weeks after that, I get the chance to be the woman with the bad hair and the forehead-kissing spouse, holding my newborn son. And though I might be screaming my bloody head off, clutching the nurse's uniform and asking WHERE ARE THE DRUGS, WOMAN, I hope I can savor every last minute of it. Or at least the newborn part, anyway.

Speaking of that undulating belly? Check it out:



30 weeks, in our backyard (yay! We have a backyard!).

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